Motivation

The past week I have been reading, and watching Stefan Pylarinos’ blog, Project Life Mastery. TALK ABOUT AUTHENTICITY!! His passion for personal development, and growth has been immensely helpful in my daily life. And by viewing everything that he is posting has reminded me why I started this blog several years ago. I am motivated, and expecting great things within the next few days. I am beyond thankful for Stefan for being such an inspiration in my life.

check out Stefan’s blog!!!
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George Sterling: Prison

“A prison becomes a home when you have the key.”

George Sterling

Commonly it is said, “that I have a wall in my life.” This imaginary wall can be built upon many different foundations; hurt, guilt, fear, . . . The said wall has the potential to destroy life. It’s the barrier that separates people from their destiny, potential, and future.  As George Sterling said, “a prison becomes a home when you have the key.” People are choosing to live in their prison instead of demolishing the wall in their life. Which is the most detrimental thing a person can do. Contentment and life fulfillment has been voided out when the wall is standing in a persons life. George Sterling was a writer in Northern California, in that day he was named one of the greatest poets in America. Even though George accomplished so much in his life, he had a wall built up. His personal prison lead to him committing suicide on  November 17, 1926. George’s story is appalling. These walls that we build up must come down because, the result is a life that isn’t worth living. 

“Don’t allow anything from your personal history to keep holding you hostage.” – John C. Maxwell

Mistakes by John C. Maxwell

Messages that give us feedback about life.
Interruptions that should cause us to reflect and think.
Signposts that direct us to the right path.
Tests that push us toward greater maturity.
Awakenings that keep us in the game mentally.
Keys that we can use to unlock the next door of opportunity.
Explorations that let us journey where we’ve never been before.
Statements about our development and progress.

MISTAKES
by John C. Maxwell

Letting Go and Moving Forward by Karim Hajee

Let’s face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening we need to let go but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it’s easy to say: “Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go.” But that really doesn’t work. I’m about to show you how to let go and start moving forward.

Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward.

Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall everyday? Chances are you’re like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you’re holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.

The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you’ve filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn’t allow you to move forward, in short, you’re carrying useless baggage that’s really slowing you down.

Think of it this way: you’re on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don’t serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you’ll never complete your trip.

To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It’s not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with —- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.

How to Let Go and Move Forward.

Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health.

Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you’re not even aware of. Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn’t help me so I’m letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations. When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations.

The next step is to create an action plan, the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.

The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.

The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: “But Karim, where I am right now really sucks, I don’t want to think about it.” It only sucks because you’re looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you’re ready for new possibilities, then you’ll begin to let go and move forward.

Paulo Coelho

It's not my story anymore: 
whenever I speak about the past now, 
I feel as if I were talking about something that has nothing to do with me. 
All that remains in the present are the voice, 
the presence, 
and the importance of fulfilling my mission. 
I don't regret difficulties I experienced; 
I think they helped me to become the person I am today, 
I feel the way a warrior must feel after years of training; 
he doesn't remember the details of everything he learned, 
but he knows how to strike when the time is right.

[UA]

Don’t let past relationships ruin your future happiness, scars remind us of where we’ve been, not where we are going.

– Unknown Author

Conrad Hilton

 

Success seems to be connected with action.
Successful people keep moving.
They make mistakes, but they don’t quit.

Forward Movement

Being the social outcast could possibly be the most ominous thing a person could face. By attending a small high school in a rural area, it made it simple to discover this horrifying fact. In every way imaginable I tried to fit in. I would buy the clothing that the others wore. I would speak the slang that the others did. I would listen to the same type of music. I would watch the same sitcoms. I would go to the popular hang out spots. Never did I fit in. It bothered me for the longest time.
From time to time I would have these afflictions. Why couldn’t I fit in? I grew up in the same region as my peers. I’ve had all the same opportunities if not greater. This week it hit me.

“If you belonged to the world, it would love you as its own. As it is, you do not belong to the world, but I have chosen you out of the world. That is why the world hates you.”
John 15:19

I have heard this scripture in the past though, I never took it to heart. Me and my over analyzing self would not accept this as a direct answer to my questioning. One of my closest friends told me this week that I need to stop! I need to take a step back from all the chaos of my life. Then take time  to reconcile with God. I did.
Everyday I learn a little more. As a normal  human being, I am striving to make the best out of my life. Henceforth I will not ask why.

As always, I do apologize to anyone who may of heard my confusion or read my confusion. It is degrading to myself and to humanity.

Fresh? Spoiled!

I grew up in the Church of God denomination, which is a Protestant/ Pentecostal organization. Every once in awhile there were district services which are usually held at the largest campus in the district. I remember services at this particular campus where there were over 800 people stuffed into that building, which only held 600 comfortably.
That church experienced a ton of growth and had several ministries within the facility, which was pretty amazing given the area that it is located.

About three years ago I left that denomination for various reasons. Although, tonight at my home church there was a Christmas program with the children’s ministry therefore, I decided to visit a different church so that I could get involved in a worship service. That campus where the district services were held was only a few miles from where my home church is located, so I drove to that church. I was expecting the kind of service that I experienced back when I attended the Church of God denomination. (Not saying I was let down because, I was not the Holy Spirit moved and there was a great word from an awesome preacher) I was shocked when I pulled onto the campus parking lot, there were only a handful of vehicles on the lot. At first I didn’t think about it. Then I walked into the sanctuary only to see half the seating was removed from the building, and there was less than 50 people there.

I do not understand how something so large could end up being so small?
How could a ministry that God blessed and allowed to grow so fast crumble to just a handful of people?
I am not saying that small churches are not the way to go because, I grew up in a small church and I clearly understand the intimacy that is definitely taken for granted in the smaller facilities. Although, being in the very same building that just a few years ago I witnessed a huge revival, and a packed house. It was somewhat depressing.

I know that God has a plan and a purpose for whatever is going on at that place, I do not question that at all.
I was shocked to the core.

attitude by Charles Swindoll

The longer I live,
the more I realize the
impact of attitude on life.
Attitude to me,
is more important
than the past,
than education,
than money,
than circumstances,
than failures,
than success,
than what other people
think,
or say, or do.

It is more improtant
than appearance,
giftedness, or skill.
It will break
an organization,
a school, a home.

The remarkable thing is
we have a choice everyday
regarding that attitude we
will embrace for that day.

We cannot change our past…
We cannot change the
fact that people will act in a certain way.
We cannot change the inevitable.
The only thing we can do
is play on the one string we have,
and that is our attitude…

I am convinced that life is 10%
what happens to me
and 90% how I react to it.

And so it is with you…